Reach Out When You Need Help
I grew up a victim of abuse and feeling as if I was a no one and without anything to offer anyone. Even with clients telling me I helped them I still felt I lacked approval and love. Until on September 18, 1988 at the Fox Theatre Miss Patti LaBelle called me to the stage asking is I was ill. I said no just thin so my parent would love me.
She said baby no one should be this thin do Miss Patti a favor and look at you in the mirror at home. She then said the song she was about sing went out to her friend Sylvester dying of aids, and her last two sisters fighting cancer and to you little girl in the fifth roll there is a winner in you. And she sang …“Winner in You” She was crying and so was I, because despite her personal pain she took the time to care about me. She followed the song “You Are My Friend” and looked out at me and blew a kiss. The person with me had helped me starve myself and said don’t listen to her she doesn’t know anything. I knew better. It made me get counseling for the eating disorder. I had due to childhood abuse and it healed me so I could fully do my work for the Lord. Years later we still communicate and I have given her pieces of my art work and she had me tell my story to the sellout crowd at the Fox Feb 12, 2012 and she had them give a stand applause for what I do for people, but that year at News Eve I asked God to give my biggest wish and that was thank her in front of hundreds of people I got it that night. She took and abuse victim and let me pay it forward when I am on the street giving free help to people in pain. Giving money to charities they I have extra to give. I am always giving free help to people at her concerts as my way of paying her back, or giving free stones for healing that has helped 8 terminal cancer patients survive cancer.
When I worked the library job there was a young lady with cerebral palsy that came in four times a week to get materials to read. She had a hard time walking and her one arm was very badly crippled up there were young adults her age that made fun of her loud enough for her to hear. One day she had had enough and turns to them and said. “I am this way because of doctor’s mistake in my delivery when my mother gave birth to me and my mom died doing so. Can you tell me what happen to cause you all to lose your hearts when you were born and did your mothers live through the births of you?” I wanted to say more than what she said but feared for my job since the people I worked for did not like working with a gifted person even though I worked for God.
The next time the one young man came into the library and had a lot to check out I talked openly about my niece with cerebral palsy and how she was in high school marching band while in grade school and that kids use to make fun of her because she fell if she walked too fast, but now she plays lead clarinet in both bands and won first at state. So I guess it shows we should not judge others. The Youngman turned to me after my coworker said to tell her congratulations and said is that what that girl has we made fun of. I said yes. He said OH! I better apologize to her shouldn’t I? I told him not because she can be someone but because it is not right to bully anyone. He told me he was having dreams of being crippled in a car accident… I told him it was his angels warning him of karma. Later that week he sat talking to the girl and apologized. He also began ignoring his friends that made comments about other people that were homeless, black or handicapped.
Women I counseled would say their husbands found younger women because they looked ugly. Yet, they looked like Catherine Deneuve does now or like Linda Evans does now.
I would explain he was in need of an ego feed and was going to do anyway that had even flirted before he left her. Then there are the women who think they need to stay for the children and I explain about how the children see the mother or father that is doing the abuse. I also give them advice to seek counseling or list of materials to read that might help or list of organizations that might help them.
No one has the right to abuse a child I will write a separate blog on that following this one. But I will include help numbers below on this blog.
In life we are not always in charge of our lives and need help I have several clients that have addictions in their families to deal with on the lists below are websites to contact for information for support groups.
If you need support for bullying or for being Gay, Lesbian, or Transgender I have listed those sites that will lend you help listed below.
My lists are not all inclusive for I do not know all sites, but tried to do research to help with most support groups
Call 911 or your country’s emergency service number if you need immediate assistance or have already been hurt.
For advice and support:
· In the U.S., call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
· UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.
· Canada: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-363-9010
· Australia: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 200 526
· Or visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a worldwide list of help lines, shelters, and crisis centers.
For a safe place to stay:
Call your state’s branch of the National Coalition against Domestic Violence or another local organization. For contact information, visit State Resources.
www.D.A.R.E.com Help for drug addiction.
www.drugabuse.gov/Prevention/examples.html to help those working in drug abuse prevention, NIDA, in cooperation with the prevention scientists, presents the following examples of research-based programs that
Drugabusetreatmentprograms.com drug and alcohol treatment center is instrumental in the life of someone who is going through heavy addiction or even
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS is the organization to help the alcoholic deal with their disease and give them help working the program to help them on their road to sobriety
National Association for Children of Alcoholics
10920 Connecticut Avenue, Suite 100
Kensington, MD 20895
Phone: 888-55-4COAS
Also Al-Anon and Al-Teen are also national groups to help children and teens with alcoholic people in their lives
Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse Support Groups are found throughout the world go to your internet and look for you area group to attend a meeting if you are not getting what you need after six meeting stop. Look for another type of meeting or another group. It might be the people there are too messed up to help each other or the group is not being leaded right.
www.ocfoundation.orgThe International OCD Foundation (IOCDF) is an international not-for-profit organization made up of people with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and related disorders
www.nami.orgThe Information Helpline is an information and referral service which can be reached by calling 1 (800) 950-NAMI (6264), Monday through Friday, 10 am- 6 pm, Eastern time. Business callers, including those seeking particular NAMI staff members, should call 703-524-7600
http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PublicHomeServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US
24-Hour Hotline
1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678)
Childabuse.com is an excellent site about child abuse with many resources within that site.
www.childhelp.orgBetty White Hollywood Legend has helped them help abused children this website is for prevention and help for abuse children.
If you need help or have questions about child abuse, call the Child help National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor. The hotline counselors are there 365 days a year to help kids, and adults who are worried about kids they suspect are being abused. You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.
Real life stories from the Child help National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD
Recently, a 10-year-old boy called the Hotline. He was given a bookmark at his school that tells children about Child help’s National Child Abuse Hotline and when they should call for help.
Cyber-bullying (v.): when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones.
Posted 09/28/2011 by Child help
With the technology available to children, teens and preteens, bullying has in many ways, taken on a new form. Not that traditional harassment or teasing has disappeared, but rather a new bullying avenue has appeared with the birth of social media.
www.speakupbesafe.orgthis site is a newly developed, school-based, child abuse prevention program that focuses on child safety. It is an evolution of Good Touch Bad Touch. The model for Speak up Be Safe is based on several areas of research including child development, learning styles, social psychology, and child abuse and neglect prevention. It is written to promote broad student participation and critical reflection by engaging children participants in visual, auditory, and physical learning.
Children international help overseas children that are dying from hunger or abused with moneys you send by adopting them and 82% goes to the children it has been proven. Only 18% goes to fund the running of the agency. To me this is a good investment in helping the children of the under developed nations of the world.
The Trevor Project runs the Trevor Lifeline, a 24-hour, national crisis and suicide prevention lifeline for gay and questioning teens. The number is 1-866-4-U-Trevor. You can learn more about The Trevor Project and the other great program they have at their website: thetrevorproject.org.
The National Center for Bullying Prevention is helping to promote awareness and teach effective ways to respond to bullying. You can learn more about them at: Pacer.org/bullying.
STOMP Out Bullying is focused on reducing bullying and cyber bullying. Find out more on their website: stompoutbullying.org
The Matthew Shepard Foundation runs Matthew’s Place, an online community and resource center for LGBTQ youth. The website is: matthewsplace.com
The Human Rights Campaign’s Welcoming Schools Guide is an approach to addressing family diversity, gender stereotyping, and name-calling in K-5th grades. The guide helps administrators, educators, and parents or caring adults make sure that their elementary schools welcome all students and families. You can learn more at www.welcomingschools.org
PFLAG and GLSEN have partnered with the Department of Civil Rights to create the Claim Your Rights program, to help everyone understand that they have the right to safer schools. This resource helps students, parents and teachers report incidences of bullying, particularly when schools deny that bullying exists. You can find out more about this vital resource at: http://community.pflag.org/claimyourrights
The GLBTQ Online High School is a safe place where you can get a complete high school education — and diploma — from anywhere you have internet access. While public schools still struggle with becoming accepting environments, the GLBTQ Online High School is a safe, affirming place for students wanting a high-quality education. Find out more on their website: glbtqonlinehighschool.com
www.bullying.org is a site with many ways of helping you deal with bullying in your life no one person can judge you the way you walk, dress, love, your race, religion, or sexual preference yet we are bullied for all of those including for being a psychic in a normal work place every day. Some bullying can turn into people getting killed or people committing suicide as in cyber bullying.
www.stopbullying.gov Great site for gay’s children and all people needing advice to help prevent bullying from happening to them or anyone they know. This gives web site for children that are young so they can watch movies to help them understand bullying at any age. Information for cyber bullying and parents as well as educators also will learn much from this site. Well organized and easy to understand.
I know we all love our Animals and there are now laws to protect them. One of my clients lost hers to the neighbor who poisoned the dog. That was not a good reading, but the animal control people found the antifreeze in his shed and charged him with the crime. He has since moved from the rental property. Below is website for animal protection;
http://www.aspca.org/ Adopt an animal today my cockapoo was burnt and then had her neck cut twice before she was taken in by the human society but she was only a puppy. I have had her since then; she is now 18 years old and still with me and my brother walks with my 90 year old dad three times a week one mile in 25 minutes. She loves me for saving her life and she saved mine in return with the love she gives my dad.
www.greenpeople.org/AnimalRights.html – excellent help for animals
www.geari.org/animal-rights-organizations.html– A nonprofit, educational group for animal rights related information including animal testing, companies test on animals, vivisection, charities animal testing, and products
www.earthdirectory.net/animals The World Directory of Animal Protection Organizations
Peta I admire them for the great reporting job they do about abuses. Showed the Ringling Brothers circus beats their animals I have seen the video I have seen other circuses that have not done this but others that have so I do not buy a ticket until I go the day they set up and make them let me go back where the animals are trained and watch if the circus does not object I know they have nothing to hide if they do they are abusing the animals.
http://www.clintonfoundation.org/Transforming Ideas into Action: Clinton Global Initiative
The Clinton Global Initiative is a project of the Clinton Foundation that brings together a community of global leaders, university students, and private citizens to identify and implement innovative solutions to the world’s most pressing challenges, including poverty alleviation, climate change, global health, and education.
The Clinton Development Initiative in Malawi and the Clinton Hunter Development Initiative in Rwanda work to generate income for smallholder farmers, increase agricultural productivity, and enable sustainable growth to alleviate poverty.
The Clinton Economic Opportunity Initiative is helping families and individuals keep more of the money they make by supporting state and city efforts to promote access to basic financial services. CEO also matches inner-city entrepreneurs with successful business leaders to help them grow their businesses and flourish in an urban economy.
The Alliance for a Healthier Generation, a partnership between the Clinton Foundation and the American Heart Association, is dedicated to ending the increase in childhood obesity and helping all kids and their families lead healthy, active lives.
The Clinton Climate Initiative is making a difference in the fight against climate change in practical, measurable and significant ways, by working with 40 of the world’s largest cities to reduce their greenhouse gas emissions. CCI is assisting partner cities to make energy-savings improvements to buildings, transit systems, lighting and waste management.
The Clinton Health Access Initiative is helping to turn the tide on the HIV/AIDS pandemic by working with governments and other partners to increase the availability of high-quality AIDS care and treatment for people in need, lower the cost of essential tests and treatments, and strengthen health systems in the developing world
An innovative partnership between the Clinton Foundation, the private sector, governments, other NGOs and local communities, the Clinton Giustra Sustainable Growth Initiative is working with the natural resource industry to improve health and education programs and alleviate poverty, starting in Latin America.
I took this my last long list from Mariska Hargitay’s web site. She is a great lady and wonder advocate for rape victim’s rights for which I am grateful. Please everyone give to Joyful Heart her foundation that helps abused women of all ages.
These are sites listed on Mariska Hargitay’s Site
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Green Your Routine
More information:
telephone: 800-CALL-EDF (800-225-5333)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Teaching Children to Say No
More information:
telephone: 800-CHILDREN (800-244-5373)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Abusive Relationships
More information:
telephone: 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Internet Safety
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telephone: 800-THE-LOST (800-843-5678)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Violence Prevention
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telephone: 800-983-IASK (800-923-4275)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Monitoring Kids’ TV viewing
more information:
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Got Milk?
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website: thinkaboutyourdrink.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Anti-Prejudice
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telephone: 877-260-7ADL
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Self-Esteem
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telephone: 800-GSUSA-4-U
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Child Abuse
More information:
telephone: 800-CHILDREN
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Self-Esteem
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telephone: 800-789-2647
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Emergency Planning
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telephone: 800-BE-READY (800-237-3239)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Diversity/Prejudice
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telephone: 877-260-7ADL (877-260-7235)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Substance Abuse
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telephone: 800-729-6686
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Keep an Eye on What Your Kids Watch on TV
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telephone: 888-672-KIDS (888-672-5437)
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Drinking and Driving will Catch up with you
More information:
telephone: 888-327-4236
website: themoreyouknow.com
Ass=”MsoNormal”>Share What You Know. Be a Mentor.
More information:
telephone: 888-432-MENTOR (888-432-6368)
website: themoreyouknow.com
To me it is important that Black health matters I was contacted by the woman listed below for her organization that is helping Blacks with their health issues. Please contact her.
Saurav Mishra, Sunshine Behavioral Health , sauravm@sunshinebh.com Community Outreach
River Ridge Drive #350, Clinton Township, MI
I believe that with Miss Labelle giving me a part of her heart the night September 18th 1988 when she sang There’s A Winner In You which saved my life. I am to giving back by teaching online for free and healing people and helping people find the help they need if you need to find an source of help please email me I was a resource librarian for over 37 and a half years so I can email you on how to look of resources online for help. It took days to compile my lists if I feel I should add to them they will change. I know that when Miss Labelle had a sold out crowd she had them give me a standing applause after I told them the story of how she helped me then she had me tell who I was and all I did. In the restroom that night a lady needed help and God told me what to say the her the next year she paid me back for my advice by telling me her son has made a turn around and that she as payment to me for my free advice from God bought another Patti LaBelle concert ticket. I was glad for the input about her son and for her coming to see Patti that night Patti was not feeling good and I had a frozen shoulder and when she said she had to be in St Louis and needed energy from her little friend. God unfroze my shoulder and I sent her white light for her whole concert with my arm raised straight up it was not straight for over two months. So I know if we do things for others God rewards us. Miss LaBelle has many rewards coming to her through what I have done for others thanks to her.
So remember if someone you meet just needs a kind word, a meal, an address to go find help give it to them you will be rewarded. I do not have children yet several of my clients call me mom, or aunt; that is a better gift than if I was born into their families.
May you make a difference to all you run into in life? Remember if you believe you can achieve anything and I believe in you. God Bless.